hi!! yesterday no lesson but at nite time having dinner with mrs. juilet Tan n those graduates n project mates.... wow... very fun n the food very tasty n nice.... again it was mrs tan paid.... it is a malay resturant n is at tiang jiong pagar there.... lucky my friend's dad send me to tiang jiong pagar there if not i will be very late to there.... yesterday taken my pass for the ndp liao... wow lau the photo they put is still using the last time one le... tat time they took one they didnt put le... the ndp attire they say sat then give us... this sat got ndp reheasal le... n is until nite time... dun koe this yr they give us wat food le.... hope dun wan KFC again.... i sick n tiring of KFC liao... cos tat time every wk is KFC.... okie gtg liao....
7/09/2004
When I Saw U, I Was Afraid To Talk To U, When I Talked To U, I Was Afraid To Hold U, When I Hold U, I Was Afraid To Love U, Now That I've Love U, I'm Afraid To Lose U...
The fundamentals of love.
Think back to the day when you first laid eyes on her. You found yourself
charmed by the way she talks, the way she dresses herself to show off her
best features and the way she embraces life with her laughter. It seemed as if a mysterious "chemistry effect" has suddenly developed to draw you closer to her.
You two then began to meet regularly, and you discover more things that you
admire about her. Her clever ideas, her healthy values and the way she stands up for you when others doubt you. You find yourself thinking of her not just as a normal friend, but a very good friend. It is often during this period that a boy and a gal will start thinking of bringing their friendship to another level. After all, the kind of wonderful experience you have between each other can only become even better if it develops into a romantic relationship. In other words, the feeling is really unique -no one else seems able to replace her in your
heart.
So both of you agree to go steady and work even harder on the relationship.
You "graduate" to become a couple, and are the envy of the sea of singles.
When You Forget The Fundamentals
However, at some point in your relationship, you forgot how it all began.
You start to take your partner for granted. Why can't she laugh in a more
ladylike manner? Why doesn't she dress herself more trendily? Why must
she assert her views and point out your silly mistakes? Is she really the one for you?
To be fair to yourself and to her, take some time to reflect on your "love memory". The "love memory' contains all the reasons that you fell in
love with her right from Day One. It contains rarely accessed snippets of how your life has changed since meeting and loving her.
Pre-steady days, did you heap compliments on her for the brave way she
spoke her mind on bullies and snobs?You probably did. Did you like her unusual fashion sense that makes her stand out from the crowd? Right-o. So why are you criticising or finding fault with her now that she is your girlfriend?
Because you have forgotten the fundamentals of love, like so many of us. You have forgotten the reasons you admired her during the friendship
phase.
Instead, once you went steady, you put your "love memory" in cold storage.
As her boyfriend, you take up a new set of demands and expectations about
her. These new ideas are not necessarily better; they could put your relationship at risk.
The Secret Of Strong Relationships
A healthy relationship, like learning to walk properly, follows a step-by-step development. You can't possibly become part of a couple if you aren't friends in the first place. Ok, I know some of us break the rule and plunge straight into whirlwind courtship, but how many of those couples can go the distance?
Couplehoodworks well when there is something you like about her (and vice versa), and I'm not referring to merely the physical aspects.
So whenever your relationship hits a rocky path, don't give up without
checking on your "love memory". Rediscover the reasons why you fell in
love with her, and watch your relationship flourish with a newfound vigour.
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L-Listen O-Overlook V-Voice E-Effort
Love is to listen to the needs of the other party: giving without asking for returns, overlook the faults and find the plus point of the other party, voice out & say sweet things and express your happiness and words of encouragement for the other party, putting in effort, keep putting in more time to find the world of love.
The fundamentals of love.
Think back to the day when you first laid eyes on her. You found yourself
charmed by the way she talks, the way she dresses herself to show off her
best features and the way she embraces life with her laughter. It seemed as if a mysterious "chemistry effect" has suddenly developed to draw you closer to her.
You two then began to meet regularly, and you discover more things that you
admire about her. Her clever ideas, her healthy values and the way she stands up for you when others doubt you. You find yourself thinking of her not just as a normal friend, but a very good friend. It is often during this period that a boy and a gal will start thinking of bringing their friendship to another level. After all, the kind of wonderful experience you have between each other can only become even better if it develops into a romantic relationship. In other words, the feeling is really unique -no one else seems able to replace her in your
heart.
So both of you agree to go steady and work even harder on the relationship.
You "graduate" to become a couple, and are the envy of the sea of singles.
When You Forget The Fundamentals
However, at some point in your relationship, you forgot how it all began.
You start to take your partner for granted. Why can't she laugh in a more
ladylike manner? Why doesn't she dress herself more trendily? Why must
she assert her views and point out your silly mistakes? Is she really the one for you?
To be fair to yourself and to her, take some time to reflect on your "love memory". The "love memory' contains all the reasons that you fell in
love with her right from Day One. It contains rarely accessed snippets of how your life has changed since meeting and loving her.
Pre-steady days, did you heap compliments on her for the brave way she
spoke her mind on bullies and snobs?You probably did. Did you like her unusual fashion sense that makes her stand out from the crowd? Right-o. So why are you criticising or finding fault with her now that she is your girlfriend?
Because you have forgotten the fundamentals of love, like so many of us. You have forgotten the reasons you admired her during the friendship
phase.
Instead, once you went steady, you put your "love memory" in cold storage.
As her boyfriend, you take up a new set of demands and expectations about
her. These new ideas are not necessarily better; they could put your relationship at risk.
The Secret Of Strong Relationships
A healthy relationship, like learning to walk properly, follows a step-by-step development. You can't possibly become part of a couple if you aren't friends in the first place. Ok, I know some of us break the rule and plunge straight into whirlwind courtship, but how many of those couples can go the distance?
Couplehoodworks well when there is something you like about her (and vice versa), and I'm not referring to merely the physical aspects.
So whenever your relationship hits a rocky path, don't give up without
checking on your "love memory". Rediscover the reasons why you fell in
love with her, and watch your relationship flourish with a newfound vigour.
^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^^*^*^*^*^
L-Listen O-Overlook V-Voice E-Effort
Love is to listen to the needs of the other party: giving without asking for returns, overlook the faults and find the plus point of the other party, voice out & say sweet things and express your happiness and words of encouragement for the other party, putting in effort, keep putting in more time to find the world of love.